So many times, we women are
operating under false assumptions about relationships that cause us to feel
sad, lonely, and disconnected from our man.
These dangerous relationship myths
are so widespread, it's no wonder so many of us have suffered the sting of
heartache. I'm sure you'll recognize these and the pain they bring. Knowing the
real truth I'm about to share is nothing short of love-life changing.
Relationship
Myth #1: Giving = Getting
This myth tells us that in order to
get more affection and romance from a man, you have to become more affectionate
and romantic yourself. So you buy him special gifts, tell him you love him
before he tells you, cook him special meals, and offer him a lot of advice and
encouragement.
You become a giver, and you believe
that, in time, he will reciprocate. While it's true that every relationship is
give and take, the truth is that men don't fall in love because you've given
them so much. They don't stay in love because you're sacrificing everything for
them.
Men fall in love when they are able
to give to a woman. They fall in love with you because they can make you happy
and nurture you. They fall in love when you take care of yourself and share
your emotional experiences with them.
Never give a man more than he's given
you, including expressions of love and encouragement. Hint: Don't keep telling
him you love him when he hasn't said it to you yet.
Relationship
Myth #2: Exclusivity Leads to Commitment and Marriage
This is the most dangerous myth we
women have come to believe. From the time we first started dating, we were
taught that the way to marriage is to meet a nice man, become his exclusive
girlfriend, and that this alone will naturally lead to commitment.
Here's the shocking truth: What
makes a man want to give up his freedom and single status for you has nothing
to do with the fact that you've given him all your time and emotional energy.
That's right - the very fact that you're exclusive with him when he hasn't
committed to you yet actually makes a man think less of you.
“Men fall in love when they are able
to give to a woman. They fall in love with you because they can make you happy
and nurture you.”
The moment a man smells that need
and desperation that comes from having an unconscious agenda of how things
"should be", his feelings of attraction for you will fade.
Relationship
Myth #3: Showing a Man Your Feelings Will Scare Him Away
If you've ever been afraid to tell a
man how you're feeling because you're afraid you'll lose him if you do, then
I'm certain this myth has been causing havoc in your love life.
Stuffing your feelings down actually
creates more distance between you and a man. The key is not to suppress your
feelings, but to express them without drama or blame.
Before I learned the truth about
relationships and turned my marriage around, I was guilty of believing and
acting out on all these relationship myths. Once I understood these core
truths, everything in my love life changed - for the better. That’s why I write
my newsletter - so you can quickly discover what it took me so many painful
years to figure out.
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